Fetishist One Day, Fetishist Forever
By Julie Pelletier
Journal de Montréal, Dimanche le 20 Mars 2005
(translated by BDSMCIRCLE)
Sexual play is part of the erotic life of many couples but the type of play will vary with age, life experience et availability of partners. Yet, sometime some things don't change and if some desir are not met, there is no pleasure.
This the case when somebody is stuck with a very precise fetishism. Are we all a bit fetishist?
What is fetishism?
There are may way to define fetishism but the best way to describ it is the following: To get pleasure or be sexually aroused, you must use some inanimated object. A fetishist is someone who need that certain inanimated object to have sexual pleasure . usually, without that object, a fetichist will not be aroused or get a "hard on" and will quickly loose all interest with the person he or she is supposed to have an intimate relationship. Often, the non fetishist partner will discover some unusal behavior when there are sexual intercourse. Rachael, a 43 year old lady, confide in us about her latest "flirt": "I met Adam whilw we where having a small office party. He was introduce to me by a collegue that I don't know well. He was well dress and very seductive."
Beautiful legs and beautiful feet.
"Now I can remember that during our first meeting in a public place, he was unusually interested by my legs. He even complimented me about my legs. At that time, his compliment made me happy even if I am use to that, since I do have a reputation for having nice legs. We had a relationship for about a month and a half. One night, he invited me to his place for a coffee. We wanted to make love, but he needed to see and smell my feet making things so complicated that it didn't went well. To satisfy his need we had to use some very unusual position to make love. I got fed up with it and i told himthat I didn't feel well in this. I left. I never called him again. Honestly, I now found him distasteful.
A fetishism that is not share by both partners will often have the effect of a cold shower on one of the partner because that partner will feel more like an object while having sexual intercourse. He or she will often feel that the only reason their partner is with them it is because of that physical particularity or because he or she is wearing some type of clothing.
Different type of fetishism:
For most, fetishsm is consider like an hadicap by the one who need to live an intimate and a sexual relationship. The fetish come first et a fetishist will have huge problem to get sexually aroused when not using his fetish. The partner will feel used and if the couple does not fix the situation, it is the begining of the end. For many fetishist, therapy and a lot of work is necessary to fix this daily problem. If you are one of them, don,t stay by yourself, get help if you need to and you feel that you are losing your battle. Fetischism does not fix itself . Sometime, fetishism even become a huge problem. Get help if you are suffering from this.
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