To navigate the site using the BDSM glossary
To navigate the site using the technical glossary
The entrance page of this site
To know more about us
Articles about BDSM
Editorials about BDSM
Our discussion group on Yahoo
BDSM stories
BDSM and general pictures
BDSM links
BDSM polls
BDSM events
BDSM personal ads
To email us
Pour naviguer sur le site en français



BDSM Glossary "S"



0-9 A B C D E F G H I J K L M





Smart Ass Masochist. Usually a person who by means of "smart talk" puts himself or herself in "trouble" on purpose, to have a punishment from his or her Dominant or top. A derogatory term.



Person who likes to inflict pain on others and gets sexual excitement from it. There are different type of sadists. Beware, not to confuse a bdsm or S&M enthusiast with a person who just wants to beat someone else in a non consensual setting... such as a wife beater.



Some mixed "Safeword" and "Safecall". A "safecall" is a call, often by phone, to a person to insure saftey while meeting a stranger for the first time.

To know more about the usage of the Safecall, we have a: More detailled description here.



Means by which a submissive or bottom person can warn the Dominant person or top that during a play, he or she has had enough (pain physical or mental) or has reached his or her limits.

To know more about the usage of the Safeword, we have an article at: Safewords.



Type of play which uses excrement. Consider a fetish by some. Called "Shit Play", "Brown Play" or "Brown Showers" by some others.



Two definitions possible:

- The BDSM "scene": or belonging to the BDSM world or BDSM communities.

- A BDSM scene : refers to a BDSM session or a BDSM play..



Another word for session is a "play" or "a scene". A "session" could be 10 minutes long to many days.


Sex with other(s) submissive(s):

Having sexual games with other(s) submissive(s) (men or women) for the enjoyment of the Dominant.



Some consider a slave to be exactly like a submissive and others consider a slave more extreme in his or her submissiveness. There is a lot of interpretation about this word in the BDSM lifestyle. In some case, some who call themselves slave are in reality less submissive than others who call themselves subs.


Slow words:

Some consider a slave to be exactly like a submissive and others consider a slave more extreme in his or her submissivness. There is a lot of interpretation about this word in the BDSM lifestyle. Many who call themselves "slave" are in reality less submissive than others who call themselves subs..

We talk about the Slowword in our article at: Safewords.


SM or S&M:

(Sado Masochistic) Type of play which uses pain. Considered a fetish by some. Part of the BDSM lifestyle.

There are people not interested by other aspect of BDSM but only interested about S&M itself. Often, they refer of themselves as Top and bottom, not as Dominant and submissive.



Type of S&M play where pain is being applied to a subs body (usually the ass) by the use of either the hands or any kind of toys.


Spanking Bench:

A bench design and used for restraining and/or bringing the submissive at the right position and height for spanking play.


Spreader Bar:

A bar of any kind of material (usually wood or metal) used to keep two body part (legs or wrist) away from each other. Used in bondage play.


Stable (Serving With Other Submissives):

Like a farm, there are many animals in a stable, the same is true in BDSM, there are many submissives ( men and women) in a stable.


Standing In The Corner:

Type of discipline used in DS


St-Andrews Cross:

A type of cross, usually in the shape of an X, used for bondage purposes.



Bondage equipment. Stocks have a long history as torture equipment through the ages, we can find them in peoples erotic fantasies....and their dungeons.


Strait Jacket:

Bondage equipment. The strait jacket is used by the mental health to restraint some patient for their own safety and the safety of others. It could be made of thick cotton (originally), PVC, leather or latex. It is a fetish for some.


Strap On Dildo:

Some call them simply "Strap On". Used in sexual games during BDSM plays. It is a belt that hold a phallus (object in a form of a penis). This belt is used by Dominant women on submissive women (oral, vagina or anal play) or on submissive men (oral and anal).


Subs and Submissives:

Within a BDSM relationship, person which by mutual conscent, gives up the power/control. Could be a man or a woman.



Type of play used in BDSM play. Play based on being controlled by a a Dominant. Considered part of the BDSM fetish.

To read more about submission, we have an article at: The 9 Levels Of Submission by Diane Vera.


Sub Space:

Stupor cause by the rush of endorphins (the body's natural pain killer) in the brain when pain is being applied. The concept of subspace is often misunderstood as a purely mental and not a physical/mental condition in the BDSM lifestyle.



A person who plays both "sides" in the BDSM lifestyle. This person, according to his or her own belief and values, will choose to be either Dominant or submissive in different plays. The concept of "Switch" is contested in by part of the BDSM community.





To go at the top of this glossary.

To go to the welcome page (top page) of our site.