Not all are made the same…..
Before going into detailed descriptions of the dangers of the body, let's look at some important generalities.
Experience in SM is not an easy topic. Experience in S&M and bondage is a more difficult topic.
Human bodies are all different. I have two examples in mind:
- One of our female submissive cannot deal at all with nipple clamp. Even the ones that barely squeeze her nipple, she cannot stand. Yet, another of our female sub that we had, could take any nipple clamp without any problems. Even the nastiest nipple clamp (I can barely stand the pain when I test them on my fingers).
- The same old female submissive we had, well, to explain things simply; I broke many floggers and paddle on her ass. I was never hard enough for her! The other submissive, from the previous example; I have to be careful when I flog her because the blood come easily at the surface of her ass and I can make her bleed way too easily, to her great regret!
Obviously, different persons will react differently to the same S&M plays.
Bondage wise, things are not better:
- We have been witness of young and healthy submissive unable to have their hands over the height of their shoulder for more than 10 minutes, without their hands becoming cold and losing colors (a bad sign). Yet again, we have witness older submissive having their hands over their hands for long time without any problems!!!!
It is impossible to generalise how things are going to happen with submissive. A submissive can be a man and it does not mean he will be able to take more pain than a woman in the same situation. Experience have thought us that submissive could or could not be able to take pain. Some could be more tolerant to it, others less and this from any gender!
I heard Dominants, men and women, saying that they are experienced and they can take any submissive and know what to do to be safe with them, whatever happen. For us, despite the fact that we have a stable of submissive, we regularly add new submissive into it (our submissive stay with us for a long time, but at some point in their life, they need to be release for various reasons), Each time we have a new submissive in our dungeon, we never take anything for granted. The exploration of pain and bondage with the new submissive is done slowly with great care. It is something we always have to do from scratch with the new ones.
Worst still; health, change of mood, the work of hormones will make the reaction of a submissive change when submitted to pain or even bondage. Nothing can be taken for granted.
At the beginning of this article, I mentioned the word experience. In BDSM, experience help to be safe but only when this experience is used wisely. Someone could have lots of experience with a long term partner, because of year of playing together, and be completely incapable to deal with a new partner, because the new partner does not react the same as the old one. Having lots of partner in BDSM isn't the best either because, even if you have had many short term partner reacting differently to your "care", it is impossible to acquire the complicity with his partner and experience of someone who is in a long term relationship!
Yet, in BDSM community, there are many people who have BDSM scenes and are safe in them. The morale here is clear; experience is good, but experience used WITH intelligence is better. A win/win situation!
Never ever take anything for granted in S&M and bondage. What is good with one submissive is not necessary good with another one
You may have been with the same person for a long time, but it doesn't mean anything. Stay alert and never take anything for granted.
It is ok to play hard, but if a S&M scene or a bondage scene becomes extreme, more the danger levels are high. Experience is to know how to play safely, intelligence is to know when to stop!
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